Improving Our Relationships

We live in a world where everything is increasingly speeding up. Technology has developed surprisingly much in the late years. In 1946 J. Presper Eckert finished his first computer, which occupied an entire room and weighted about 50 tones. Nowadays we have the tiny laptops! The information flows with the speed of the light, and if we know what we are searching for and have the Internet at hand, we can find out about everything. We can speak with everyone at anytime and anyplace and still we don't have time to truly know each other. Lots of people get depressed because their relationships problems. We need to interact with each other. We can't enjoy life without the laughter of a good friend, without the smile of a dear one, without the helpful advises of a loving parent. It isn't any wonder that when we quarrel we begin to feel guilty, unsafe, abandoned. Here are some tips that are the basis of a healthy relationship which help improve a problematic relationship.

Sincerity
Without sincerity there can't be any connection between two people. Honesty is the ground of a true and profound relationship. People tend to believe that if they hide an unpleasant thing about them or about what they did; things are going to be fine. The truth is that we can't hide forever, and when the lie is discovered, for good reason, we lose all our credibility. Being honest with the other will lead to a strong and long term relationship.

Trust
Mostly, trust it is gained in time, when we have concluded that the other person is sincere, honest. When people are trusted for what they are, they become more comfortable, more natural in the way they interact. Being trusted increases our capabilities. A good and representative example is the example of a child who is encouraged by the teacher. Expressions like "I know you can do it"are very powerful in difficult situations and would be welcomed if they are said at the time needed. A common mistake in relationships is doubt. An efficient solution for doubt would be renouncing at the assumptions we make about the respective person and ask.

No Prejudices
From the first second we meet someone new we form a set of prejudices. It is natural to do so, but very often our judgments can be wrong because we don't have enough information about that person. The first step to verify our judgment is to be aware that we make judgments. The second is simply putting questions, being the easier way to find out the truth.

Compassion
People manage better difficulties when they know they are not alone. Feeling with the other will make the relation more profound.

Creativity
People get to know each other better by doing interesting things together. Making a trip, playing a new game, learning a new language together or playing an instrument, are effective ways to have fun together.

Humor
Humor always enlightens a relationship. Making fun of embarrassing situations helps us overcome them more easily.

Respect
Most quarrels start due to a lack of respect between people. But the key to be respected is to respect. We should offer respect to everyone, even if we consider that a specific person doesn't deserve our respect. The main reason for why we should respect each other is that we are all humans, with feelings, superior intellect and superior needs.

Managing Anger
From time to time we all feel angry, and anger makes us speak hurtful words that can cause deep wounds. There are some things that could help us manage our anger: being aware of our friend's problem makes us feel sorry for him, putting ourselves in the his/her shoes, making our best to understand why the person acted that way. This may take some time, so, the most suitable solution in an anger crisis is to keep our mouths shut for at least ten seconds, maybe then the anger will disappear.

Patience
Without patience with each other there is no such thing as good understanding, and the people feel stressed. Patience is a great way to manage anger.

Love
Love is the essential key in a relationship. Without love we cannot truly reach the other helpful keys (sincerity, respect, patience, compassion, trust and so on).

Improving Our Relationships

We live in a world where everything is increasingly speeding up. Technology has developed surprisingly much in the late years. In 1946 J. Presper Eckert finished his first computer, which occupied an entire room and weighted about 50 tones. Nowadays we have the tiny laptops! The information flows with the speed of the light, and if we know what we are searching for and have the Internet at hand, we can find out about everything. We can speak with everyone at anytime and anyplace and still we don't have time to truly know each other. Lots of people get depressed because their relationships problems. We need to interact with each other. We can't enjoy life without the laughter of a good friend, without the smile of a dear one, without the helpful advises of a loving parent. It isn't any wonder that when we quarrel we begin to feel guilty, unsafe, abandoned. Here are some tips that are the basis of a healthy relationship which help improve a problematic relationship.

Sincerity
Without sincerity there can't be any connection between two people. Honesty is the ground of a true and profound relationship. People tend to believe that if they hide an unpleasant thing about them or about what they did; things are going to be fine. The truth is that we can't hide forever, and when the lie is discovered, for good reason, we lose all our credibility. Being honest with the other will lead to a strong and long term relationship.

Trust
Mostly, trust it is gained in time, when we have concluded that the other person is sincere, honest. When people are trusted for what they are, they become more comfortable, more natural in the way they interact. Being trusted increases our capabilities. A good and representative example is the example of a child who is encouraged by the teacher. Expressions like "I know you can do it"are very powerful in difficult situations and would be welcomed if they are said at the time needed. A common mistake in relationships is doubt. An efficient solution for doubt would be renouncing at the assumptions we make about the respective person and ask.

No Prejudices
From the first second we meet someone new we form a set of prejudices. It is natural to do so, but very often our judgments can be wrong because we don't have enough information about that person. The first step to verify our judgment is to be aware that we make judgments. The second is simply putting questions, being the easier way to find out the truth.

Compassion
People manage better difficulties when they know they are not alone. Feeling with the other will make the relation more profound.

Creativity
People get to know each other better by doing interesting things together. Making a trip, playing a new game, learning a new language together or playing an instrument, are effective ways to have fun together.

Humor
Humor always enlightens a relationship. Making fun of embarrassing situations helps us overcome them more easily.

Respect
Most quarrels start due to a lack of respect between people. But the key to be respected is to respect. We should offer respect to everyone, even if we consider that a specific person doesn't deserve our respect. The main reason for why we should respect each other is that we are all humans, with feelings, superior intellect and superior needs.

Managing Anger
From time to time we all feel angry, and anger makes us speak hurtful words that can cause deep wounds. There are some things that could help us manage our anger: being aware of our friend's problem makes us feel sorry for him, putting ourselves in the his/her shoes, making our best to understand why the person acted that way. This may take some time, so, the most suitable solution in an anger crisis is to keep our mouths shut for at least ten seconds, maybe then the anger will disappear.

Patience
Without patience with each other there is no such thing as good understanding, and the people feel stressed. Patience is a great way to manage anger.

Love
Love is the essential key in a relationship. Without love we cannot truly reach the other helpful keys (sincerity, respect, patience, compassion, trust and so on).

Speed Dating Tips

One of the most popular and exciting way of meeting new people, speed dating has been attracting people of different age groups. Frankly, it’s not easy to find your perfect soul mate and when it comes to finding a decent man or a lovely woman, not everyone actually knows what to look for in a potential mate. Before a guy can even muster the courage to ask a girl out, he rethinks each and every move of his. As for the girls, in the hopes of finding Prince Charming, some of us might just miss out on one in the process. The dating world is very unpredictable as you never know what’s going to happen next. And when you throw in the complications of a relationship, then forget about it. Which is why, many singles find that speed dating is a good alternative to meet someone and hopefully, strike a chord. So if you are planning on giving speed dating a shot, then you have to read what we’ve got to say.

Speed Dating Tips for Women

If this your first try at speed dating, your nerves must be at an all-time high right now. There’s so much to think about; whether you’ll be able to find someone, is this a good idea, what should wear, should you think of something witty to say, so on and so forth. Since speed dating, as the name suggests, doesn’t really give you a lot of time to really connect with someone on a personal note, you’ve got to be prepared and work in the time allotted to you. Of course, there will be dozens of guys lined up in front of you and finding Mr. Right can become that much challenging. So to ease you through this process and get you the romance you’ve always searched for, read the following tips.

• The way you present yourself is very essential. I know some women feel that basing decisions on physical and outer appearance is sexist. But when you come to think of it, the attraction between a man and a woman begins from sight. So don’t feel shy to dress well and look elegant (with as little makeup and accessories as possible).
• Depending on what you’re looking for in a guy, frame your speed dating questions. For example, you are looking for a non-smoker or someone who drinks at a reasonable quantity, don’t be scared to ask the guys point blank.
• Keep in mind that you only have but a minute or two to get yourself noticed, so make the right first impression. Even after meeting many women, if you think he has potential, then he needs to remember you till the end. Show confidence in yourself and try to give interesting and truthful answers.
• It’s not necessary that you need to have witty and/or funny answers to all the questions. Many a times, you might not have something nice to say, but that doesn’t mean you give up. Sometimes, a plain and simple answer will do just fine.
• Since everyone gets a number, it can be difficult to remember the names of the guy(s) you might be interested in when the whole shebang is over. A good way to remember an individual's name is by writing his name in front of the number. It will be easier for you later on.

Speed Dating Tips for Men

Don’t look at speed dating as a last resort to finding "Happy Ending", but as a unique life experience. Your attitude is everything that makes this effort make it or break it for you. If you go in with the feeling that you are going to find someone that is meant for you, then you’ll be more open and free to communicate with others; and that confidence will show when it’s needed. Women can smell fear, agitation, and every negative thoughts/feelings that come to your head. And we don’t want that to happen. What you need be perceived as is a strong, confident guy whom women would love to get to know more. Am I right? So to put your best food forward, follow these tips.

• Be humble when you talk to a lady. When a woman speaks to you, basically she's looking at how you speak to her and are you a gentleman. She will base her decision on it.
• Try not to boast about yourself too much. Of course, everyone has accomplished a lot in their lives which they are proud of. But talking about it constantly can be a turnoff.
• If you're nervous about talking to so many women in such a short time, then rehearse with a friend. You can do a mock setup and talk about some common speed dating questions.
• Wear a nice perfume and dress in comfortable clothes. Sensual and sexy smelling perfumes can really get you noticed.
• Make sure your hair is neat and shampooed, your nails are trimmed, hair on the face is shaved (or if you have a beard, it's trimmed nicely), and you look presentable.
• Instead of being asked all the questions, try to ask her something unique about herself that not many people know. And, pay attention to her. Women love it when guys listen to what they have to say.
• Don't be arrogant and don't stare at you know where. Women don't appreciate guys who are just looking for quick hookups.

Some Dos and Don’ts to Keep in Mind

Well, we discussed on what men and women need to concentrate on for speed dating. However, there are few common dos and don’ts which should not be overlooked by any of the two sexes. And here they are…

Do...

• Keep your cool, calm yourself down, and feel confident in yourself. If you are confident, then it will reflect to the other person.
• Seem mysterious, but not so much that the person sitting in front of you is turned off by it. Give him/her the feeling of wanting to know you more.
• Maintain eye contact and smile when you both talk. You are a nice person and that's what you are there to show.
• Be cordial and when the buzzer rings, exchange a quick goodbye. Who knows, this might just trigger something in the person sitting in front of you and want to talk to you more. Polite people are very attractive.

Don’t...

• Don't give personal contact details just yet. You want to make sure that he/she isn’t a stalker or something. Keep yourself safe.
• Don't think that the only way to grab attention is to sound and look interesting. But you have to show interest in the person sitting in front of you.
• Don't try to be someone you are not. Being someone you’re not is making a person believe that you are a particular person. Instead, why not let someone get to know the real you.
• Don't wear a slutty dress (for women) or dress as a pimp (for men). Provocative dressing doesn't really say "girlfriend" or "boyfriend". You want to make an impression which says, "Yes, I know you would like me to be in your life."
• Don't be over flirtatious. Women and many men don't really look for a partner who keeps flirting with each and every person in front of them.
• Don't wander off to another world when someone is talking to you. Even if you are not interested in them, the most you can do is be polite. (You never know, the person sitting in front of you is another guy's friend; whom you like).
• Don't bring up past relationships or the fact that you are here because your friends forced you to. It may be the truth, but a girl doesn't really want to hear that just yet.

I hope that these speed dating tips were helpful and they can be put into use. Even though the concept of speed dating may not seem like the best idea, giving love and life a shot isn't all that bad. You never know whom you will bump into there and find a new meaning of life.

Speed Dating Tips

One of the most popular and exciting way of meeting new people, speed dating has been attracting people of different age groups. Frankly, it’s not easy to find your perfect soul mate and when it comes to finding a decent man or a lovely woman, not everyone actually knows what to look for in a potential mate. Before a guy can even muster the courage to ask a girl out, he rethinks each and every move of his. As for the girls, in the hopes of finding Prince Charming, some of us might just miss out on one in the process. The dating world is very unpredictable as you never know what’s going to happen next. And when you throw in the complications of a relationship, then forget about it. Which is why, many singles find that speed dating is a good alternative to meet someone and hopefully, strike a chord. So if you are planning on giving speed dating a shot, then you have to read what we’ve got to say.

Speed Dating Tips for Women

If this your first try at speed dating, your nerves must be at an all-time high right now. There’s so much to think about; whether you’ll be able to find someone, is this a good idea, what should wear, should you think of something witty to say, so on and so forth. Since speed dating, as the name suggests, doesn’t really give you a lot of time to really connect with someone on a personal note, you’ve got to be prepared and work in the time allotted to you. Of course, there will be dozens of guys lined up in front of you and finding Mr. Right can become that much challenging. So to ease you through this process and get you the romance you’ve always searched for, read the following tips.

• The way you present yourself is very essential. I know some women feel that basing decisions on physical and outer appearance is sexist. But when you come to think of it, the attraction between a man and a woman begins from sight. So don’t feel shy to dress well and look elegant (with as little makeup and accessories as possible).
• Depending on what you’re looking for in a guy, frame your speed dating questions. For example, you are looking for a non-smoker or someone who drinks at a reasonable quantity, don’t be scared to ask the guys point blank.
• Keep in mind that you only have but a minute or two to get yourself noticed, so make the right first impression. Even after meeting many women, if you think he has potential, then he needs to remember you till the end. Show confidence in yourself and try to give interesting and truthful answers.
• It’s not necessary that you need to have witty and/or funny answers to all the questions. Many a times, you might not have something nice to say, but that doesn’t mean you give up. Sometimes, a plain and simple answer will do just fine.
• Since everyone gets a number, it can be difficult to remember the names of the guy(s) you might be interested in when the whole shebang is over. A good way to remember an individual's name is by writing his name in front of the number. It will be easier for you later on.

Speed Dating Tips for Men

Don’t look at speed dating as a last resort to finding "Happy Ending", but as a unique life experience. Your attitude is everything that makes this effort make it or break it for you. If you go in with the feeling that you are going to find someone that is meant for you, then you’ll be more open and free to communicate with others; and that confidence will show when it’s needed. Women can smell fear, agitation, and every negative thoughts/feelings that come to your head. And we don’t want that to happen. What you need be perceived as is a strong, confident guy whom women would love to get to know more. Am I right? So to put your best food forward, follow these tips.

• Be humble when you talk to a lady. When a woman speaks to you, basically she's looking at how you speak to her and are you a gentleman. She will base her decision on it.
• Try not to boast about yourself too much. Of course, everyone has accomplished a lot in their lives which they are proud of. But talking about it constantly can be a turnoff.
• If you're nervous about talking to so many women in such a short time, then rehearse with a friend. You can do a mock setup and talk about some common speed dating questions.
• Wear a nice perfume and dress in comfortable clothes. Sensual and sexy smelling perfumes can really get you noticed.
• Make sure your hair is neat and shampooed, your nails are trimmed, hair on the face is shaved (or if you have a beard, it's trimmed nicely), and you look presentable.
• Instead of being asked all the questions, try to ask her something unique about herself that not many people know. And, pay attention to her. Women love it when guys listen to what they have to say.
• Don't be arrogant and don't stare at you know where. Women don't appreciate guys who are just looking for quick hookups.

Some Dos and Don’ts to Keep in Mind

Well, we discussed on what men and women need to concentrate on for speed dating. However, there are few common dos and don’ts which should not be overlooked by any of the two sexes. And here they are…

Do...

• Keep your cool, calm yourself down, and feel confident in yourself. If you are confident, then it will reflect to the other person.
• Seem mysterious, but not so much that the person sitting in front of you is turned off by it. Give him/her the feeling of wanting to know you more.
• Maintain eye contact and smile when you both talk. You are a nice person and that's what you are there to show.
• Be cordial and when the buzzer rings, exchange a quick goodbye. Who knows, this might just trigger something in the person sitting in front of you and want to talk to you more. Polite people are very attractive.

Don’t...

• Don't give personal contact details just yet. You want to make sure that he/she isn’t a stalker or something. Keep yourself safe.
• Don't think that the only way to grab attention is to sound and look interesting. But you have to show interest in the person sitting in front of you.
• Don't try to be someone you are not. Being someone you’re not is making a person believe that you are a particular person. Instead, why not let someone get to know the real you.
• Don't wear a slutty dress (for women) or dress as a pimp (for men). Provocative dressing doesn't really say "girlfriend" or "boyfriend". You want to make an impression which says, "Yes, I know you would like me to be in your life."
• Don't be over flirtatious. Women and many men don't really look for a partner who keeps flirting with each and every person in front of them.
• Don't wander off to another world when someone is talking to you. Even if you are not interested in them, the most you can do is be polite. (You never know, the person sitting in front of you is another guy's friend; whom you like).
• Don't bring up past relationships or the fact that you are here because your friends forced you to. It may be the truth, but a girl doesn't really want to hear that just yet.

I hope that these speed dating tips were helpful and they can be put into use. Even though the concept of speed dating may not seem like the best idea, giving love and life a shot isn't all that bad. You never know whom you will bump into there and find a new meaning of life.

How to Get Her Back After a Break Up

Guys going through a break up stop thinking straight for the most part and tend to take irrational actions. This is one of the major reasons behind desperate measures they take to get her back. They tend to overlook that probably this haphazard decision making was the main reason why she broke up. It may sound like common advice but reflecting on what went wrong is one of the first steps that a guy should take if he wants to win her back. Other things that would help the situation are to stop whining and asking advice from your other male friends. It is more than likely that they are as clueless as you are, or worse, they might give you wrong advice.


How to Win Her Back After a Break Up

Approach this task like an assignment and sit with a piece of paper and make two columns. In the first column list down all the things that she liked about you, and in the second column write all the things she hated about you. Invest some time in this work as it will act as the core of your plan of getting her back. You also need to remember one thing, that all girls need to feel special and if you make her feel that way she will forgive you and probably take you back.

All Apologies
They will tell you that an apology will not make it better, well accepted! But it will lay the ground work to build something better. Express your apology not only in words but let it be seen in your actions. For example if she broke up with you cause you are a flirt, then stop talking to other girls and apologize for your insensitive behavior.

Show Care
One of the major reasons for a breakup is that the girl feels neglected in the relationship. You have to go over the top to reassure her that this is not the case if you want her back in your life. Start by making simple inquiries like how she is doing, does she need anything, how was her day, etc. Talk about issues that might be troubling her, for example, ask her how she is coping with stress at work, how she is dealing with an ill family member, etc. Remember to keep your focus on her when you are showing concern.

 Project Change
It is obvious she won't come back to you if she doesn't see any change in your behavior and attitude. If you are wondering how to get her back after a break up, make sure you refer to your assignment of listing things that she liked and disliked. For example, if she thinks that you get angry for no reason, don't show your anger even if she provokes you. Show that you have had a profound personality change because of the break up and now want her back so she can experience the best of you.

Give Respect
If you want her back you need to respect her views and opinions even if you disagree with her. Allow her to discuss things that you may find trivial, if she is looking for space give it to her, no point being overbearing. Let her know through words and actions that you value her and her decisions. Treat her with respect, simple things like using a soft tone when speaking about differences will help you score points with her.

Value Others
Almost all girls are caring and value their friends, family members and even the old guy at the newspaper stand. If you want her back, show that you not only value her but also the other people in her life. Talk to about her friends and family members with respect even if you can't stand them, there is no reason to be disrespectful if you don't like them. For example if her mom is having a birthday, send her flowers and a card, this small gesture will help you score lot of points.

If you desperately want her back do not underestimate the importance of showering her with gifts, sending over a cute teddy bear with a 'I am sorry' tag is a good way to begin. Sending flowers and chocolates with hand written notes expressing your true feelings will also go a long way in mending the relationship. One last thing, be honest and genuine in your efforts, she will sense it.

How to Get Her Back After a Break Up

Guys going through a break up stop thinking straight for the most part and tend to take irrational actions. This is one of the major reasons behind desperate measures they take to get her back. They tend to overlook that probably this haphazard decision making was the main reason why she broke up. It may sound like common advice but reflecting on what went wrong is one of the first steps that a guy should take if he wants to win her back. Other things that would help the situation are to stop whining and asking advice from your other male friends. It is more than likely that they are as clueless as you are, or worse, they might give you wrong advice.


How to Win Her Back After a Break Up

Approach this task like an assignment and sit with a piece of paper and make two columns. In the first column list down all the things that she liked about you, and in the second column write all the things she hated about you. Invest some time in this work as it will act as the core of your plan of getting her back. You also need to remember one thing, that all girls need to feel special and if you make her feel that way she will forgive you and probably take you back.

All Apologies
They will tell you that an apology will not make it better, well accepted! But it will lay the ground work to build something better. Express your apology not only in words but let it be seen in your actions. For example if she broke up with you cause you are a flirt, then stop talking to other girls and apologize for your insensitive behavior.

Show Care
One of the major reasons for a breakup is that the girl feels neglected in the relationship. You have to go over the top to reassure her that this is not the case if you want her back in your life. Start by making simple inquiries like how she is doing, does she need anything, how was her day, etc. Talk about issues that might be troubling her, for example, ask her how she is coping with stress at work, how she is dealing with an ill family member, etc. Remember to keep your focus on her when you are showing concern.

 Project Change
It is obvious she won't come back to you if she doesn't see any change in your behavior and attitude. If you are wondering how to get her back after a break up, make sure you refer to your assignment of listing things that she liked and disliked. For example, if she thinks that you get angry for no reason, don't show your anger even if she provokes you. Show that you have had a profound personality change because of the break up and now want her back so she can experience the best of you.

Give Respect
If you want her back you need to respect her views and opinions even if you disagree with her. Allow her to discuss things that you may find trivial, if she is looking for space give it to her, no point being overbearing. Let her know through words and actions that you value her and her decisions. Treat her with respect, simple things like using a soft tone when speaking about differences will help you score points with her.

Value Others
Almost all girls are caring and value their friends, family members and even the old guy at the newspaper stand. If you want her back, show that you not only value her but also the other people in her life. Talk to about her friends and family members with respect even if you can't stand them, there is no reason to be disrespectful if you don't like them. For example if her mom is having a birthday, send her flowers and a card, this small gesture will help you score lot of points.

If you desperately want her back do not underestimate the importance of showering her with gifts, sending over a cute teddy bear with a 'I am sorry' tag is a good way to begin. Sending flowers and chocolates with hand written notes expressing your true feelings will also go a long way in mending the relationship. One last thing, be honest and genuine in your efforts, she will sense it.

Top Ten Relationship Tips

Relationships can be tricky. They require a deep level of commitment, a lot of patience, a lot of time, and more compromise than we think. We see a lot of relationships fail; some seem doomed from the start, some seem perfect and then all of a sudden fall apart. Relationships also have to start right, be sustained, and last, which means you can never rest easy and stop making an effort. Relationships are almost like day jobs. And since each relationship is different, there are no secret recipes that make lasting relationships.

There are, however, some tips that wouldn't hurt and can actually help raise the chances of your relationship surviving the odds.

1. Communication is key.

This is the golden rule in relationships. You don't have to be in touch in your every waking hour, but do take time each evening to talk about your day. Never be afraid of saying what's exactly on your mind; if you can't tell your partner those intimate and honest truths, who else can you tell?

2. Friendship is important.

Romance will always have its downtimes. We can't all be romantic and charming 24/7 after all. In a lot of cases, it's these romance downtimes that start to disappoint people. It's when the prince charming or the mysterious romantic girl falls from the pedestal. It always helps if you've got friendship underneath the romance that can sustain the relationship during these hard times.

3. Laughing is love.

Laughing together is always a bonding moment, no matter how vague the reason is, no matter how fleeting that moment was. Partners should be able to make each other laugh, even in the dullest of circumstances.

4. Acceptance is a must.

You have to accept the person you're with. Some bad habits do need changing, but don't try to change who the person is. If you try to change all the bad things, you might end up with a different person and lose all the good things too.

5. Appearances are unnecessary.

If you are looking for a serious relationship, say goodbye to appearances. Don't put up appearances at any point. A lot of people do this during the first few months of the relationship. Then when things start to get comfortable, the appearances drop, and the disappointment and resentment sets in.

6. Listening is the solution.

Here's a common problem in relationships: she talks too much, he doesn't listen. The solution here is to listen, as closely as you can. Listening closely will lessen all her reasons to nag repeatedly. If you get what she said the first time, she wouldn't have to repeat it. That goes both ways too.

7. Individuality should be maintained.

In today's world where men and women's places in society are becoming equal, it is important for two partners to maintain their sense of individuality separate from the relationship. Both partners should hold a high regard for themselves as individuals. If you are satisfied with yourself, your rate of satisfaction in terms of other people and other situations also increases.

8. Mutuality should be in attendance.

Despite keeping individual lives, partners should also be able to switch to "mutual" mode easily. This mutual mode is definitely necessary to nurture the connection that couples find in each other the first time they meet.

9. Money is the root of all evil.

Once you start talking about money, you can expect a lot of arguments to rise up. Dealing with finances individually is a form of maintaining individuality, and it is necessary especially when you are not on the way to the aisle. Sooner or later, the money talk will come up, but don't push it. And when it does come up, draw a middle line. Discuss large purchases and investments, but don't control each other's spending.

10. Vision is the way to success.

If you think that a relationship is not going anywhere, it really won't. Always have goals in the relationship, so you're both motivated to get to that point where you'll share a mutual happiness that you've both always wanted. A relationship with no vision will most likely become a relationship with no future.

Top Ten Relationship Tips

Relationships can be tricky. They require a deep level of commitment, a lot of patience, a lot of time, and more compromise than we think. We see a lot of relationships fail; some seem doomed from the start, some seem perfect and then all of a sudden fall apart. Relationships also have to start right, be sustained, and last, which means you can never rest easy and stop making an effort. Relationships are almost like day jobs. And since each relationship is different, there are no secret recipes that make lasting relationships.

There are, however, some tips that wouldn't hurt and can actually help raise the chances of your relationship surviving the odds.

1. Communication is key.

This is the golden rule in relationships. You don't have to be in touch in your every waking hour, but do take time each evening to talk about your day. Never be afraid of saying what's exactly on your mind; if you can't tell your partner those intimate and honest truths, who else can you tell?

2. Friendship is important.

Romance will always have its downtimes. We can't all be romantic and charming 24/7 after all. In a lot of cases, it's these romance downtimes that start to disappoint people. It's when the prince charming or the mysterious romantic girl falls from the pedestal. It always helps if you've got friendship underneath the romance that can sustain the relationship during these hard times.

3. Laughing is love.

Laughing together is always a bonding moment, no matter how vague the reason is, no matter how fleeting that moment was. Partners should be able to make each other laugh, even in the dullest of circumstances.

4. Acceptance is a must.

You have to accept the person you're with. Some bad habits do need changing, but don't try to change who the person is. If you try to change all the bad things, you might end up with a different person and lose all the good things too.

5. Appearances are unnecessary.

If you are looking for a serious relationship, say goodbye to appearances. Don't put up appearances at any point. A lot of people do this during the first few months of the relationship. Then when things start to get comfortable, the appearances drop, and the disappointment and resentment sets in.

6. Listening is the solution.

Here's a common problem in relationships: she talks too much, he doesn't listen. The solution here is to listen, as closely as you can. Listening closely will lessen all her reasons to nag repeatedly. If you get what she said the first time, she wouldn't have to repeat it. That goes both ways too.

7. Individuality should be maintained.

In today's world where men and women's places in society are becoming equal, it is important for two partners to maintain their sense of individuality separate from the relationship. Both partners should hold a high regard for themselves as individuals. If you are satisfied with yourself, your rate of satisfaction in terms of other people and other situations also increases.

8. Mutuality should be in attendance.

Despite keeping individual lives, partners should also be able to switch to "mutual" mode easily. This mutual mode is definitely necessary to nurture the connection that couples find in each other the first time they meet.

9. Money is the root of all evil.

Once you start talking about money, you can expect a lot of arguments to rise up. Dealing with finances individually is a form of maintaining individuality, and it is necessary especially when you are not on the way to the aisle. Sooner or later, the money talk will come up, but don't push it. And when it does come up, draw a middle line. Discuss large purchases and investments, but don't control each other's spending.

10. Vision is the way to success.

If you think that a relationship is not going anywhere, it really won't. Always have goals in the relationship, so you're both motivated to get to that point where you'll share a mutual happiness that you've both always wanted. A relationship with no vision will most likely become a relationship with no future.

How to Make a Guy Fall in Love with You

I want to confess something. I tried with all my guts on framing one of those quintessential points-to-be-noted and tips-to-successful-love articles, but couldn't. Most of the writeups you'll find online will serve that purpose - there are experts and tipsters sitting online shelling advice on how to make a guy want you, love you, etcetera etcetera. My apologies here, but I beg to differ. I am not one of those typical old-hands experienced in making any and every guy fall in love with me, dishing out things-to-do-or-not-to-do, or should I say, beguiling readers - not that I didn't try doing it with all my heart in my teenage years. But then, that doesn't mean I do not have enough practicality to offer.

I do not promise to give a foolproof solution to those heebie-jeebies you experience every time you see that guy, but can state one thing right at the outset, that in order to know how to make a guy fall in love with you, just let him take his own sweet time. Today, when I just chanced upon bestowing life to words over men and relationships, I decided that this one would have words and thoughts of my own choice, and not the ones that are typically expected out of pieces of writing dedicated to inside information on dating. The following words are all about what I have to say about how to make him fall in love, with you. For ever.

Making Him Yours, Forever

I remember those days of high school. When a girl starts thinking about a guy in that way. When she makes sure she is dressed at her best for school. When just one glance of the guy would be enough to make her day. Friends know it all, but the guy she loves doesn't. That's when the girl starts writing a diary, a personal one. She becomes friends with roses in her garden, and plays around with the rose petals on a daily basis, chanting 'does he like me, does he not, does he like me, does he not!'. She sees him everyday, but they never talk much. All he knows is that she's just another girl in the school. When nothing works, she reasons out why isn't she good enough for the guy, drawing out the weirdest of conclusions in the world.

I know all of it, yes I do. You see, the most important thing in this case is to, at least, make your presence felt to him. You need not be outspoken, but always be ready to help him. Not because you want him to feel you're a slave, but because you like doing it for him. Guys have a habit of taking things in the wronger way, when it comes to girls (did I sound chauvinistic?). The more candid you are, the more he thinks of you as 'available', obviously for all the wrong reasons. Better maintain your own limits, and don't rush out helping him in carrying his books, bringing food for him from home, or doing his homework. You wouldn't want him to think of you as a free-of-cost personal assistant, would you? Rather, talk to him about things of his interest, without being fake. Do not claim to like things which he likes, and end up lying just because you overheard some silly do's and dont's on how to make a guy like you, whatever way it be. Be what you are - never compromise on your beliefs and ethics. I believe, if you lie to a person, you do not deserve to love them. As simple as that!

What strikes the chord in guys is how well you be the girl of their dreams. Learning how to attract men is easy, but actioning the same is pretty difficult. When you're his friend, you tend to talk about his kinda girl, either while watching a rom-com, or at instances when any of the much-desirable hotties of the school just passes by. You judge what he tends to like about girls. It's then that you can incorporate the same in you. Dress the way he likes, generate interests of similar kinds, all for him. All to know him better. All to let him know you better. However, there's just one thing. Never tell him that you did it for him. This way, he'd straightaway get an idea that you like him, and may just like you for the same. Love you? Can't be sure of that, or if your stars are in alignment, may be Yes.

From what I could conclude about relationships, expectations is the root of all causes. You expect, you're left heart-broken, you get up on your feet, just to expect and break your heart once again. Hard-hitting as it may sound, just don't expect him to love you back. You'll do a number of things for him, expecting the best of the comments, which sometimes, may appear to you as the worst of what you had expected. This does nothing but hurt you even more. Surprise him on his birthday, but don't expect him to even remember yours. Call him on an important day, but don't expect your phone to ring when you're having a tough time. Some teeny-weeny little things that you do for him might not leave him speechless, but he's noting every move. Be his best-friend. Don't expect him to be one. Life's happier, and content. This may sound like some conventional relationship advice, but then, who could escape these cliched, but heartrending truths that love tangles along with itself? Shed out everything for him, but only if he's ready to receive it with all his heart. He'll love you for everything you've done. One fine day.

This was one of the many extracts of my experience on ambiguities brimming how to make a guy fall in love with you. Fully cognizant of the fact that I am, I haven't been much successful in deciphering exactly what to say to a guy you like, or what to do to make him want you. Still adamant of the fact, there are no tricks, whatsoever, on how to make a guy fall in love with you, let alone simply and easily. However, that doesn't mean you should stop making efforts. Should there be any tips and tricks, it would only be to let him know about your feelings at the earliest. A response from the opposite side might take time, but as of now, I'm content as I could contribute a bit in manipulating those butterflies in your stomach, could I?

How to Make a Guy Fall in Love with You

I want to confess something. I tried with all my guts on framing one of those quintessential points-to-be-noted and tips-to-successful-love articles, but couldn't. Most of the writeups you'll find online will serve that purpose - there are experts and tipsters sitting online shelling advice on how to make a guy want you, love you, etcetera etcetera. My apologies here, but I beg to differ. I am not one of those typical old-hands experienced in making any and every guy fall in love with me, dishing out things-to-do-or-not-to-do, or should I say, beguiling readers - not that I didn't try doing it with all my heart in my teenage years. But then, that doesn't mean I do not have enough practicality to offer.

I do not promise to give a foolproof solution to those heebie-jeebies you experience every time you see that guy, but can state one thing right at the outset, that in order to know how to make a guy fall in love with you, just let him take his own sweet time. Today, when I just chanced upon bestowing life to words over men and relationships, I decided that this one would have words and thoughts of my own choice, and not the ones that are typically expected out of pieces of writing dedicated to inside information on dating. The following words are all about what I have to say about how to make him fall in love, with you. For ever.

Making Him Yours, Forever

I remember those days of high school. When a girl starts thinking about a guy in that way. When she makes sure she is dressed at her best for school. When just one glance of the guy would be enough to make her day. Friends know it all, but the guy she loves doesn't. That's when the girl starts writing a diary, a personal one. She becomes friends with roses in her garden, and plays around with the rose petals on a daily basis, chanting 'does he like me, does he not, does he like me, does he not!'. She sees him everyday, but they never talk much. All he knows is that she's just another girl in the school. When nothing works, she reasons out why isn't she good enough for the guy, drawing out the weirdest of conclusions in the world.

I know all of it, yes I do. You see, the most important thing in this case is to, at least, make your presence felt to him. You need not be outspoken, but always be ready to help him. Not because you want him to feel you're a slave, but because you like doing it for him. Guys have a habit of taking things in the wronger way, when it comes to girls (did I sound chauvinistic?). The more candid you are, the more he thinks of you as 'available', obviously for all the wrong reasons. Better maintain your own limits, and don't rush out helping him in carrying his books, bringing food for him from home, or doing his homework. You wouldn't want him to think of you as a free-of-cost personal assistant, would you? Rather, talk to him about things of his interest, without being fake. Do not claim to like things which he likes, and end up lying just because you overheard some silly do's and dont's on how to make a guy like you, whatever way it be. Be what you are - never compromise on your beliefs and ethics. I believe, if you lie to a person, you do not deserve to love them. As simple as that!

What strikes the chord in guys is how well you be the girl of their dreams. Learning how to attract men is easy, but actioning the same is pretty difficult. When you're his friend, you tend to talk about his kinda girl, either while watching a rom-com, or at instances when any of the much-desirable hotties of the school just passes by. You judge what he tends to like about girls. It's then that you can incorporate the same in you. Dress the way he likes, generate interests of similar kinds, all for him. All to know him better. All to let him know you better. However, there's just one thing. Never tell him that you did it for him. This way, he'd straightaway get an idea that you like him, and may just like you for the same. Love you? Can't be sure of that, or if your stars are in alignment, may be Yes.

From what I could conclude about relationships, expectations is the root of all causes. You expect, you're left heart-broken, you get up on your feet, just to expect and break your heart once again. Hard-hitting as it may sound, just don't expect him to love you back. You'll do a number of things for him, expecting the best of the comments, which sometimes, may appear to you as the worst of what you had expected. This does nothing but hurt you even more. Surprise him on his birthday, but don't expect him to even remember yours. Call him on an important day, but don't expect your phone to ring when you're having a tough time. Some teeny-weeny little things that you do for him might not leave him speechless, but he's noting every move. Be his best-friend. Don't expect him to be one. Life's happier, and content. This may sound like some conventional relationship advice, but then, who could escape these cliched, but heartrending truths that love tangles along with itself? Shed out everything for him, but only if he's ready to receive it with all his heart. He'll love you for everything you've done. One fine day.

This was one of the many extracts of my experience on ambiguities brimming how to make a guy fall in love with you. Fully cognizant of the fact that I am, I haven't been much successful in deciphering exactly what to say to a guy you like, or what to do to make him want you. Still adamant of the fact, there are no tricks, whatsoever, on how to make a guy fall in love with you, let alone simply and easily. However, that doesn't mean you should stop making efforts. Should there be any tips and tricks, it would only be to let him know about your feelings at the earliest. A response from the opposite side might take time, but as of now, I'm content as I could contribute a bit in manipulating those butterflies in your stomach, could I?